Tuesday, May 15, 2007
Division of labor
This isn't exactly a fight, but I hope the members of Couples Court will weigh in. We have been married for four months and desperately need to come up with a division of chores that is fair. So far I, the wife, do everything unless I ask for help with a particular chore. My husband will help me when I ask but he acts like he's doing me a favor and it's a one-time only deal. Am I going to have to ask him to take out the trash twice a week for the next 50 years? What works for other people?
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I'm not married but my boyfriend will even tell you that unless you tell them word for word what you expect from them, they are "clueless." I'm not so sure I believe this yet; it seems like the easy way out. Some things just seem like they'd be obvious; I feel your frustration!
Are there any chores he particularly cares about doing? For my husband and I, that's what works best. I am very peculiar about laundry, cooking/cleaning the kitchen, and he is very peculiar about cleaning the bathroom and dusting/vacuuming. The other chores (mopping, trash, odds and ends) pretty much get done by one of us owning up and doing it. This way, even if one week I end up doing ALL the odd chores and my own, I still don't feel very bad, because hey, he's cleaning the stinky bathroom and dusting the entire house. Anyway, that just works for us. Hope it helps.
Good words.
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